How much is too much?

We might as well face it… the wedding season is in full swing! Indeed, May and June are reputed to be two of the most popular months for couples to tie the knot. And why not? The weather is normally absolutely beautiful during late Spring and the scorching summer heat is still at bay, so the couple can set their minds at rest where that is concerned. Yet there are several other factors which they need to take into consideration if they wish their wedding to be a success: landing a stylish reception hall, making sure that every detail is perfect: the flowers, the music, the food, invitations, and so much more. There is no doubt that the wedding day is a huge deal for the couple and their nearest and dearest. It’s a time of celebration and fellowship. But above all, it’s that moment in time that reflects the sacred union between the bride and the groom, that moment when they commit themselves to one another for life; and although it is indeed a day that is worthy of festivity, is there a possibility that our society has taken it too far?

People of my generation can clearly remember a time when no matter how big or how small weddings were, they were certainly less expensive to organize, and certainly much more of a family endeavour than they have become in recent years. Our mothers painstakingly stitched and sewed clothes for the entire wedding party, grandmas baked and decorated the cake, sisters and aunts put together the wedding souvenirs. Today, the epidemic of extravagant weddings has seeped into our culture in an extraordinary way and the concept of achieving the so-called ‘perfect wedding’ has taken over completely; so much so that, in some cases, it is keeping the couple from focusing upon what really matters – the marriage itself. So, yes, it’s okay to get excited about the dress and the reception, but not at the expense of the marriage: the months (even years) before the wedding are a time to begin working, preparing and planning for the marriage one hopes to build.

Christine Galea studied at the University of Malta, where she obtained a Master of Arts in Family Ministry in 2012. She is the Secretary-General of the Cana Movement and teaches Theology of Marriage and the Family at the Institute of Pastoral Formation. Christine is also a Board member of Genesis2 – Institute for Marriage and the Family, which promotes reflection about the person, marriage and family from several perspectives, through training, witness and peer support.

One thought on “How much is too much?

  • Reply Marcelline Piscopo 24th June 2017 at 5:28 am

    Well said.

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